On Mental and Emotional Health- My take.

I never heard of mental and emotional health before this and I never knew the importance of this two things in our lives.  also never took care of it . To enjoy life to the fullest I seriously need to improve on these in my life.

As defined in the WikiPedia,  "Mental health is a term used to describe either a level of cognitive or emotional well-being or an absence of a mental disorder. From perspectives of the discipline of positive psychology or holism mental health may include an individual's ability to enjoy life and procure a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience.  Mental health is an expression of our emotions and signifies a successful adaptation to a range of demands."

The World Health Organization defines mental health as "a being of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community"

^{I guess with all my shopping.. I was trying to fill the Gap of being healthy mentally and emotionally ...LOL arghh that's so shameful to admit.... and also I think I have a long long way of being at my Healthiest Peak on Mental and Emotional Health.. I have my work cut out for me .. since we can trained to be physcially fit... I am guessing I can also train myself to be mentally and emotionally healthy and fit.  .. Mmmm that is my dream to be Mentally and Emotionally Fit.. Tough-tough ,  Resilient ... Tahan Tukul... hehehehehe   I need to more Strength in Resilience .. the ability to Bounce Back when get hit by problems ..  How? ... heres the How.. What did you say? But  it does make sense to me...} 

Building your resilience

Resilience involves maintaining flexibility and balance in your life as you deal with stressful circumstances and traumatic events. This happens in several ways, including:

• Letting yourself experience strong emotions, and also realizing when you may need to avoid experiencing them at times in order to continue functioning
• Stepping forward and taking action to deal with your problems and meet the demands of daily living, and also stepping back to rest and re-energize yourself
• Spending time with loved ones to gain support and encouragement, and also nurturing yourself
• Relying on others, and also relying on yourself

Source: American Psychological Association

As mentioned by in this website http://www.helpguide.org/mental/mental_emotional_health.htm

"People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their emotions and their behavior. They are able to handle life’s inevitable challenges, build strong relationships, and lead productive, fulfilling lives. When bad things happen, they’re able to bounce back and move on."   

...Yeah I want that!!!! I WANT.. I WANT.. I WANT..

and my sounding  board when am stressed is a very close person to me and I am so glad that she is always there to listen to me.. but I think I have overused her kindness and compassionate heart .. Oooppps  well hope she forgives me .. Me and my Dramatical Soap Opera Life .. hahahahaha anyways ...  I need to nurture myself coz  Its a beautiful World and its to be lived fully .. I strive to be Cheerful everyday ..

Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.
- Marianne Williamson

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss

“I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.” ~ Arthur Rubinstein

"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see." ~ Henry David Thoreau

His Ego~ness..

OMG Can you believe it?

 I finally had the courage to tell the guy that I be moving on and I be letting him go.. outta my mind..and I have some new guy who is seriously into me ... and I want to be dating that new guy. Told him honestly  that I have waited in vain for him all this time and I want to see people who really are into me, and not the half-baked discussions on his plans to be with me... and his Response!! OO but we already know each other..... (and that's good enough for him.. ) Why?... why need to talk often and see each other at all... need to go dating? Need to fall-in-love??? ??before marriage?. (In My thoughts ....Duh!!!!!!  OMG!!! Excuse me! Hellow!!! Me NOT a Baby machine okay! that you say okay yah we get married and create offsprings coz am good enough GENE stock for him.. Yikes!!) and my mind went like .. mmm Yeah right! ..after u get the kids and then you gonna kick me out on my cute lil butt...

Guess what his reaction was....When I carefully informed him that due to the weird way that it was arranged and that expectations were high from external parties.. I  gently mentioned and hinted that we were not right for each other and will not get along.. ztztztztz .... He laughed out loud and asked me whether am I joking?!!!  He said that we are only waitng for the right time to get hitch and that am too impatient ?  OO OO OOOO the gall of that guy!!  and he is saying that am rejecting him and that am being unreasonable? Helllow?!!  Excuse me... WE never even got started in the first place.  Okay that was two weeks ago. After my phone call, he called me back and met up with me on the same day and went for lunch with me .. okay fine.. nice lunch ...I pretty much kept quiet most of the time, didn't open the funny weird  topic on the phone... wow he did put his moves on me.... Like!! Wow.. as if am his Darling-ness already .. soo attentive, so gentlemanly, so polite.. then Bang ahh he had  to be some place else .. he have other things to do, previously planned for the day. Mmmmmm,  okay Bye Handsome! See you around!...

And no calls no text messages.. then Boom he called me , telling me that I promised to go out with him for a date that nite!.. Errrrrrrrr excuse mua..   mmm Politely and gently turn him down ..but he said "  Is that the way to treat your husband?" hehehehe damn needed to control my voice from screaming and sounding squeeky and irrational likea Mad Woman.. . anddddd he  kept pushing me to go out with him .. saying am a person who doesn't keep to her promises .. shaikes!!! so I told him the next nite wud be fine with me...coz anyway I was pretty excited but I was oustation so had to decline..  and......mmmmm


Well to cut the story short... he came .. we went to a hang-out place, where am not a regular .. and well whatdaya know!!!!! I kept on stressing how we are soo wrong for each other and he was like saying we are soooo good together ...and I kept repeating that we can be good friends ,  but not a good couple and he kept insisting that we can get along very very well indeed and able to communicate welll tooo.. and that he is really putting a lot of his effort into this thing and that am doing NIL  but but but there is a catch ... mmmm He said I have an attitude that needs to be corrected and then only will he be able to accept me . Aarghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.. I wanna knock my head to the wall ... knock knock knock  and shoot myself ...bang bang bang !!!! But like always, I kept my cool composure showing all sweet smiles and humouring him and jokingly making other sweet conversations... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr internally I was burning with the urgh!!!


At the end of the nite outing ... I said my goodbyes by telling him to take care and keep in touch as friends at least, as we are not meant to be together ...  And his respond was.... " We can be together only if YOU change....and put  away your Ego" ...   I gag ..... Errrkkkkk .. (Exasperating isn't it... arghhhh ... )

Well  Que Sera Sera.. He can go fly kite ... lalalalalalala

and I just blew my top and resolved on budgeting et ce ra and went shopping for my self pampering routine..... emmmmmm sweeet  sweeet sweet   shopping  .. (~__~) The best revenge is to Look our most  Gorgeous Attractive Self...

I think that I will have to work smarter and harder on getting moolah to pay off the damage done to my credit card ... mmm definitely

Faith....

"Would you dare make the leap of faith and up-root from where you are currently and leave behind everything that you currently have in that place?

Eventhough its seems the scariest thing to do in the world... To find something more meaningful in life , I made the decision to change the path in my life .. Money Wise I have so much more less than I am used to , I have less, considering now I am nearly almost living on handouts .. hehehehehe, But what I have gain is tremendously much much more than what I had to let go.

I have attain a  blissful life... (~__~)  I am filled and surrounded with  love and warmth  that has been kinda missing in my life for all those years... The feeling of being safe, loved and having the security net around me ...  I made the decision back few years ago. The catalyst was the Alpha Course which changed my perspective on life.  To attain what fulfills me in life on a daily basis.. That is,  To let go,  Let go of all my worldy concerns and worries and  put my Trust In The Lord , Jesus. simple , right?

Yea Yea, some  people might say we should not be complacent , we should not be coddled in life as that would make us lazy people..But why does it have to be a harsh, hard, unloving, and  cold life?  Why choose Living a life of misery to Living a Life of Bliss and Joy and Happiness? We still can  continue going after what we dream of in life .. coz we can never stop dreaming and we will never stop living...  It is soo much more better making the journey with an Appreciative, Grateful, Happy and Positive Attitude  . Though life is not sunshine and happiness daily but when we are filled to the brim with Blissfulness,  it is so much easier to take on Life's challenges head on.  Of course there those times that are black days and depressive days but with Family and Good Friends surrounding me, ahhhh  great to be able to wash off the black moods .. with laughter and happy moments.. plus the occassional Happy drink ... In as much, I am still in need of lotsa; faith, confidence, and endurance too. Nobody is perfect.  Everyone just like you and me is doing to the best of their abillities in daily life. So Get a Great Appreciative Attitude  and don't be a hard-arse to others.

 O and I did a whole lot of shopping and spending ... and treats to myself and treats to whomever who accepted my invitations,  with a God send gift package .. ehehehehe I am being Grateful everyday and Thanking God for all the nice bit of surprises that's like an avalanche coming into my life.

 Cheers!


"Let your mind and heart urge you on; allow the power of your will  to lead you to your destination." ~Anon

The Unforgettable Date..

Unforgetatable Date.... am sure you are thinking that I be writing about my best date ever but .. hahaha its just the opposite.. It was so bad that I keep on thinking about it till today.. On why ever in hell did I let myself myself into that Worst Date Ever of my life..

Well the usual scenario would be like this cartoon...! I would be having the pleasure of being impressed by the guy , and would be testing how high the guy would jump rope for me ! hehehehe..

I have been wine and dine and wine and dine many times and easily forgetabble dates. Just that this   unforgetabble date is with someone I kinda have  "Great Expectations On ..." well maybe coz of the Great Expectation"  it was the worst furthest from the expectations..

Summarised version..
For one, I had to wait for one hour for the guy to arrive, was actually asked to wait at several different locations,  and no apologise for lateness, never asking  me how I am , rude to the waitress,   immediately went on a dialogue about himself.  and all about him.  What a bummer... (~__~)








It would have not mattered where it was or the lateness of the arrival , would have been forgivable if only ...  , just prefereably ,  the guy would be more of a  Great Guy? ..  I really am not expecting much ...Just a normal, average,  Guy Guy! ..

Feeling like I can take on the world with Pezzaz!

Yesterday is gone... Thank fully .. I was sick and i don't like feeling sick,  I feel soo helpless and hopeless.. but I did try to enjoy the sick off day. It was fine so fine and restfull
:-)
Most importantly,  got my Energy back today!! And I feel more wonderful than ever.. sot hahahaha


Today,  feeling so so much better and Happier  and Brighter and Shinnier .. (~__~)  Can you see me shimmering? hehehe  Urm but still feeling the dizziness if I move or turn my head too fast though.. maybe I should start bit slower  today . Not too much play or else my newly renergize mind, body and soul might crash again ..

The thing that makes me most happiest today is that I have line-up and prioritize on all the stuff am gonna get .. LOL ... Shophaholic Trait kicking in .... (~__~) But hey I really need these things .. Ya know..