On Mental and Emotional Health- My take.

I never heard of mental and emotional health before this and I never knew the importance of this two things in our lives.  also never took care of it . To enjoy life to the fullest I seriously need to improve on these in my life.

As defined in the WikiPedia,  "Mental health is a term used to describe either a level of cognitive or emotional well-being or an absence of a mental disorder. From perspectives of the discipline of positive psychology or holism mental health may include an individual's ability to enjoy life and procure a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience.  Mental health is an expression of our emotions and signifies a successful adaptation to a range of demands."

The World Health Organization defines mental health as "a being of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community"

^{I guess with all my shopping.. I was trying to fill the Gap of being healthy mentally and emotionally ...LOL arghh that's so shameful to admit.... and also I think I have a long long way of being at my Healthiest Peak on Mental and Emotional Health.. I have my work cut out for me .. since we can trained to be physcially fit... I am guessing I can also train myself to be mentally and emotionally healthy and fit.  .. Mmmm that is my dream to be Mentally and Emotionally Fit.. Tough-tough ,  Resilient ... Tahan Tukul... hehehehehe   I need to more Strength in Resilience .. the ability to Bounce Back when get hit by problems ..  How? ... heres the How.. What did you say? But  it does make sense to me...} 

Building your resilience

Resilience involves maintaining flexibility and balance in your life as you deal with stressful circumstances and traumatic events. This happens in several ways, including:

• Letting yourself experience strong emotions, and also realizing when you may need to avoid experiencing them at times in order to continue functioning
• Stepping forward and taking action to deal with your problems and meet the demands of daily living, and also stepping back to rest and re-energize yourself
• Spending time with loved ones to gain support and encouragement, and also nurturing yourself
• Relying on others, and also relying on yourself

Source: American Psychological Association

As mentioned by in this website http://www.helpguide.org/mental/mental_emotional_health.htm

"People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their emotions and their behavior. They are able to handle life’s inevitable challenges, build strong relationships, and lead productive, fulfilling lives. When bad things happen, they’re able to bounce back and move on."   

...Yeah I want that!!!! I WANT.. I WANT.. I WANT..

and my sounding  board when am stressed is a very close person to me and I am so glad that she is always there to listen to me.. but I think I have overused her kindness and compassionate heart .. Oooppps  well hope she forgives me .. Me and my Dramatical Soap Opera Life .. hahahahaha anyways ...  I need to nurture myself coz  Its a beautiful World and its to be lived fully .. I strive to be Cheerful everyday ..

Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.
- Marianne Williamson

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss

“I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.” ~ Arthur Rubinstein

"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see." ~ Henry David Thoreau

His Ego~ness..

OMG Can you believe it?

 I finally had the courage to tell the guy that I be moving on and I be letting him go.. outta my mind..and I have some new guy who is seriously into me ... and I want to be dating that new guy. Told him honestly  that I have waited in vain for him all this time and I want to see people who really are into me, and not the half-baked discussions on his plans to be with me... and his Response!! OO but we already know each other..... (and that's good enough for him.. ) Why?... why need to talk often and see each other at all... need to go dating? Need to fall-in-love??? ??before marriage?. (In My thoughts ....Duh!!!!!!  OMG!!! Excuse me! Hellow!!! Me NOT a Baby machine okay! that you say okay yah we get married and create offsprings coz am good enough GENE stock for him.. Yikes!!) and my mind went like .. mmm Yeah right! ..after u get the kids and then you gonna kick me out on my cute lil butt...

Guess what his reaction was....When I carefully informed him that due to the weird way that it was arranged and that expectations were high from external parties.. I  gently mentioned and hinted that we were not right for each other and will not get along.. ztztztztz .... He laughed out loud and asked me whether am I joking?!!!  He said that we are only waitng for the right time to get hitch and that am too impatient ?  OO OO OOOO the gall of that guy!!  and he is saying that am rejecting him and that am being unreasonable? Helllow?!!  Excuse me... WE never even got started in the first place.  Okay that was two weeks ago. After my phone call, he called me back and met up with me on the same day and went for lunch with me .. okay fine.. nice lunch ...I pretty much kept quiet most of the time, didn't open the funny weird  topic on the phone... wow he did put his moves on me.... Like!! Wow.. as if am his Darling-ness already .. soo attentive, so gentlemanly, so polite.. then Bang ahh he had  to be some place else .. he have other things to do, previously planned for the day. Mmmmmm,  okay Bye Handsome! See you around!...

And no calls no text messages.. then Boom he called me , telling me that I promised to go out with him for a date that nite!.. Errrrrrrrr excuse mua..   mmm Politely and gently turn him down ..but he said "  Is that the way to treat your husband?" hehehehe damn needed to control my voice from screaming and sounding squeeky and irrational likea Mad Woman.. . anddddd he  kept pushing me to go out with him .. saying am a person who doesn't keep to her promises .. shaikes!!! so I told him the next nite wud be fine with me...coz anyway I was pretty excited but I was oustation so had to decline..  and......mmmmm


Well to cut the story short... he came .. we went to a hang-out place, where am not a regular .. and well whatdaya know!!!!! I kept on stressing how we are soo wrong for each other and he was like saying we are soooo good together ...and I kept repeating that we can be good friends ,  but not a good couple and he kept insisting that we can get along very very well indeed and able to communicate welll tooo.. and that he is really putting a lot of his effort into this thing and that am doing NIL  but but but there is a catch ... mmmm He said I have an attitude that needs to be corrected and then only will he be able to accept me . Aarghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.. I wanna knock my head to the wall ... knock knock knock  and shoot myself ...bang bang bang !!!! But like always, I kept my cool composure showing all sweet smiles and humouring him and jokingly making other sweet conversations... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr internally I was burning with the urgh!!!


At the end of the nite outing ... I said my goodbyes by telling him to take care and keep in touch as friends at least, as we are not meant to be together ...  And his respond was.... " We can be together only if YOU change....and put  away your Ego" ...   I gag ..... Errrkkkkk .. (Exasperating isn't it... arghhhh ... )

Well  Que Sera Sera.. He can go fly kite ... lalalalalalala

and I just blew my top and resolved on budgeting et ce ra and went shopping for my self pampering routine..... emmmmmm sweeet  sweeet sweet   shopping  .. (~__~) The best revenge is to Look our most  Gorgeous Attractive Self...

I think that I will have to work smarter and harder on getting moolah to pay off the damage done to my credit card ... mmm definitely